Book Review : Wadekar Namrata Bhaskar, MGV’s Loknete Vyankatrao Hiray Art, Science And Commerce College Panchvati, Nashik.
1.In “The Best Thing About You Is You!”, Anupam Kher introduces the foundational concept of self-acceptance as the bedrock for true happiness. Kher argues that embracing your authentic self is crucial for personal fulfillment and long-lasting contentment. Self- acceptance is not merely about acknowledging your strengths, but it is also about embracing your flaws and imperfections. It requires a deep understanding of who you are at your core and a willingness to accept and love yourself unconditionally.
2.The Power of Positive Thinking in Daily Life
An essential tenet covered by Anupam Kher in “The Best Thing About You Is You!” is the transformative power of positive thinking.
According to the author, a positive mindset not only reshapes your outlook on life but also profoundly affects your daily experiences and interactions. Embracing an optimistic attitude isn’t just about thinking happy thoughts; it’s a vital tool for navigating life’s challenges and achieving a more fulfilling life.
3.The Best Thing About You Is You!” by Anupam Kher, the author delves into the crucial theme of overcoming fear and building resilience. Kher begins by identifying common fears that many individuals face, such as the fear of failure, rejection, and uncertainty. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the root causes of these fears, often stemming from past experiences, societal expectations, or internalized beliefs. By recognizing the origins of our fears, we can begin to address and dismantle them.
4.The Importance of Mental and Emotional Wellness
Maintaining mental health and emotional balance is crucial for overall well-being and happiness. Anupam Kher emphasizes the importance of paying attention to one’s mental and emotional states, making it clear that these aspects of our lives require just as much care and attention as our physical health. The author provides practical tips for nurturing mental health and sustaining emotional balance.
5.Cultivating Meaningful Relationships and Connections
A significant pillar of personal happiness and fulfillment is cultivating meaningful relationships and connections. Anupam Kher underscores the integral role that relationships play in enriching our lives, contributing not only to our emotional well- being but also to our growth as individuals. By connecting authentically with others, we open ourselves up to shared experiences, mutual support, and communal joy.
The best thing among you is to be the one who is ahead of others and become like them.
Because of anger, we are losing our own name, and we are trying to find out our strengths. And what we should definitely do without making excuses and should be a good teacher and lawyer. If we think rationally with a calm head, we can also find happiness in becoming a good teacher and lawyer. Instead of comparing ourselves with others, we should know what is in our hearts and live honestly with ourselves. We should control our thoughts.
After thinking, we are adopting, thoughts are being transformed into actions. We need to get used to actions, habits make our character, and character creates our destiny. Therefore, our destiny is our life path. To remove depression, we should enjoy the pleasant events in our life. Our luck usually lies with us.
1.Disappointment is just a way of thinking. It’s different for all.
2. Be Yourself. Stop wearing masks wherever you go. Be natural.
3. Anger is to controlled. The best way to breathe is through the stomach. To control anger, count 50 backward along with analyzing your breath.
4. When you are unhappy just compare your life with the one that has less privilege than you. If you compare with the one higher than you, then you will be more unhappy.
5. Every time you feel unhappy, perform SWOT ANALYSIS (Strength, Weakness, Opportunity, Threats). When you make a goal, the goal should be rational. Like the goal that can be achieved.
6. Do not compare with others who praise themselves or their lifestyle to make us feel envy of them. Never read the social diary and high-life supplements of newspapers as soon as u get them. Consider reading them during mid-day break or after work in the evening.
7. Thoughts are two way, constructive and destructive.
Nothing to discuss constructive thoughts. But negative ones are really harmful. Method to control is to recall the happy moments of life such as childhood, a beautiful sunset, the touch of loved ones, moments with ur mother.
8. If you don’t change, you can become extinct.
9. Whenever you face a relationship ending, you always need the conclusion or the reason for it to end. Or else the thought of that relation can disturb you. Try to communicate about the reason. If you cannot communicate, then just have yourself in the shoes of the opposite and you will find the answer.
10. Happiness is not the absence of unhappiness. A happy person is the one who is happy even in the unhappiness.
11. Be detached. Do not expect anything in return. We must become like true mystics who transcend all feelings of love, hatred, happiness, unhappiness, etc.
12. Relive and return. 90:10 principle states that 10 percent of life is made up of what happens to u and 90 percent of life is decided by how you react. Our reactions are game-changers for better or worse.
13. Live every moment. The only thing that you have in your hand is your present. Life is not about surviving the storm, it’s about enjoying the rain.
14. Who am I? Question this to you every week and find your real personality.
15. Be consistent. Be motivated. That’s the reason you are told to meditate daily and not to meditate 50 hours in a single go.
16. Ego destroys everything. Never take yourself seriously. We all develop ego because we acquire a very serious image of ourselves as we grow older and we don’t like to be made fun of. Also, we are very conscious of our image.
17. Humour… When we were children it was an integral part of our life. But as we grow old we started to believe that it’s not for grown-ups. We started to believe that successful people need to look grave and serious all the time. We need to find humor in everything. Problems to hai sab ke sath… Bas nazariye ki hai baat.
18. All the power is within you. In the language of self- realization, it’s always in and not out… Like… It’s win and not wout. It’s introspect and not outrospect. It’s intuition and not outuition. So the road to self-actualization is to address the internals and ACT. Focus your attention on the task and do not give in to stray thought.
19. Value Yourself. In this time of social media and competitive world. It’s very important to value Yourself the way you are. You don’t have to compare it with your neighbor. It can lead to losing belief in your own self.
20. Cut out the lesser mortal things of your life. If we are said to pack just one suitcase then we know some important things to take. Similarly, we must travel light in the spiritual sense. We must shed our anger, ego, falsity, etc.
21. Wisdom of fables… Fables are better than novels and books for teens or adults because they don’t leave us foolish for asking the question. Instead, they explain each line of wisdom better.
22. For handling the blues, go through the photographs and the memories of the same thing when you were happy about it.
23. Forgiveness erases bitterness… When we don’t forgive someone who has hurt our feeling, we nurse a grudge. That reduces it to pure revenge which we seek. After us, the other person also seeks revenge and then things go on. An eye for an eye will soon make the world blind.
24. Love and detachment can co-exist. It does not mean to neglect, it means letting things be. We can start by not interfering in their decisions and by lowering our expectations from them.
25. Old wisdom from new guru… Since the last few decades, the author has seen the change in bookstores. He has seen an increase in books of mind and self-help. He says that humans cannot digest the growth and in India, there is tremendous growth and hence there is an increase in self-help books.
26. Same as 20
27. Stay connected with friends. Make new friends and keep them forever.
28. Overcome fear.
29. Inhibitions should not limit us. It is easier said than done if one is alone. Practice with the mirror every day and soon you will overcome your fear for the group.
30. Don’t fear the change. Everyone has a fear of change. Change after school gets over, change after college gets over, change when you settle in life, change when you think that your children are grown and they are handling everything on their own, change when your children are adapting something new which you don’t like. Overcome these changes by taking a break, talking with the other person and see if that change suits you also.
31. Children need Grandparents.
32. Hope is always in the air. Hope never abandons us, we abandon hope.
33. The one who is good, never advertise. And hence if positive stories are not put out, what remains are puff pieces and projections. And that’s why we have been reduced to a society without icons. So if you know any noteworthy story, tell a media person.
34. A smile can conquer stress. We are always stressed about little things, the neighbor gets a new car, his son gets better grades and these little things affect our state of living and cause unhappiness and host maladies ranging from diabetes to paralytic strokes. In many situations, how we react to matters. Our reaction will determine the outcome of the moment. Parents talk to their teenage children about the thing which can seem harsh to the children and thus they switch off. And parents lose contact with their children. We take a lot of crap from our bosses whom we will not look at if we move into another job. But there is very little crap we are prepared to take from the people we truly love. This can overcome stress in the house.
35. Minor issues obstruct your happiness.
36. Discover your true strength.
37. Accept the change. The same topic discussed the difference between the two generations.
38. Fear us the ability to numb our senses. People are n earthquake always believe that their harrowing experience lasted more than it actually was. This is because we choose to see only what we wish to see and choose to hear only what we want to hear. We should not get affected by our moods easily. This has many benefits such as we will not be misunderstood or manipulated. Because if people know that you are a person of mood, they can play the game to their own advantage as well.
39. It is easier to retreat in mountains and meditate than staying in the crush of our city, go to work, tolerate bosses, handle demanding children, and still finding peace. Sometimes the person who practice myriad self- help philosophies often loses their cool. It’s because we have not shed our externalities while finding inner peace.
We have put a cover on ourselves which is more pretentious. Learn to be happy with your irritation, flaws, and soon you will feel better. Laugh out loud, get angry, dance, trip, music and learn to be a fool… You will feel better.
40. We cry when we are alone and laugh in a group. This shows that crying is not the thing we would like to share. Life is something to feel good about. Live it with hope and courage.
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